The Birds And The Bees
Posted on: March 21, 2012
Now my first born knows all about them… the birds and the bees.
She’d been asking many questions the past few weeks and worse, had gathered lots of misinformation. So I decided it was time for the talk lest she get even more confused.
I bought this book
several years ago when I got pregnant with Mikel just in case his sister would ask where he came from. She didn’t. Then when I got pregnant for the 3rd time she asked and was satisfied with “The mommy and the daddy have to pray really hard and ask for a baby”.
But this week, the book needed to be taken out of mothballs. It’s basic and cute and funny and cartoony which was a big help but I never realized how uncomfortable it would be to talk to my own child about this. It’s right up there with talking to your parents about it. I’m not kidding!
She took it well. Some suppressed laughter and squealing on her part but all in all she took it like a big girl. She just said, “But that’s so weird…” So I told her yes, it sounds weird but it’s not at all. It’s very normal and natural and if people didn’t do this, there would be no more people.
I also made her swear not to tell other kids about this new information because only their parents can decide if they’re ready to know or not. And I could tell afterwards that she felt empowered by this new knowledge for “big kids” only. I can only hope…
10 Responses to "The Birds And The Bees"
March 22, 2012 at 1:16 am
It’s a saddening realization that she’s becoming a big girl now… At the same time, we all knew this was gonna happen sooner or later and better that it come from you than from one of her carpool mates who might give her misinformation about “B&B” LOL
March 23, 2012 at 12:25 am
This book looks cool, can I borrow?
March 25, 2012 at 4:26 pm
sure… are there some things about the birds and the bees that need clarification? ;p
March 28, 2012 at 11:55 am
yikes! you know, i learned when i was 7… (before then i thought kissing would get you pregnant after watching knots landing episodes) and it was my silly brother chuck who told me. i remember being totally shocked. i dunno though how it would have been had mom told me… yun lang just wanted to share. #bida
May 23, 2012 at 3:08 am
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March 22, 2012 at 12:55 am
How old is she?
March 22, 2012 at 2:07 am
nine this year